Pubdate: Mon, 14 Nov 2005
Source: Times Argus (Barre, VT)
Copyright: 2005 Times Argus
Contact:  http://www.timesargus.com/
Details: http://www.mapinc.org/media/893
Author: Joshua Larkin

MOTHER'S ANTI-DRUG MESSAGE HITS HOME

CABOT - Ginger Katz knows something about denial and enabling, two 
factors that contributed to her son's death by heroin overdose nine 
years ago. Since that time, she's dealt with the disaster by speaking 
out to kids, parents and whomever will listen about her son's killer.

Sunday night, Katz brought her presentation to the Cabot School 
before a crowd of about 100 students and parents. The 58-year-old 
Norwalk, Conn., mother spun a heart-wrenching tale that detailed her 
son Ian Eaccarino's introduction to the drugs that ended his life on 
Sept. 10, 1996.

Eaccarino started in eighth grade with cigarettes, she explained. One 
year later, he was into marijuana, which landed him in the police 
station when was caught smoking pot in the park with friends. Katz 
recalled picking up her son at the station that day.

"The officer takes a look at us and a few seconds later, he said to 
Ian, 'you know what Ian, I'm gonna let you go home, but if I ever see 
you with any drugs, including alcohol, I'm going to arrest you. Now 
go home,'" she said. "That's called enabling: allowing behavior to 
continue without consequences."

On the ride home, Katz's son told her he didn't like marijuana and 
that the drug wasn't his, she said.

"And guess what? I believed him," she said. "And that's called denial 
on my part and denial on his part."

Katz described the next six years of her son's life while a slide 
show in back of her depicted images of Ian. The photos spanned his 
boyhood years to just days before his death. A baseball and lacrosse 
player, a black belt in karate and student with solid grades at a 
Connecticut university, Eaccarino did not fit the archetype of drug 
addict. But that's what he was, Katz told the crowd, explaining in 
graphic detail his use of PCP, marijuana and heroin over the course 
of his life.

After her son passed away she decided she needed to do something to 
help others, Katz said before the presentation. Within months of his 
death, she founded the nonprofit organization, The Courage to Speak 
Foundation Inc., and has since used the organization as a means to 
tell Ian's story and the scourge of drugs. To date, she said, she's 
told the story more than 600 times all across the country.

Her organization, on the web at www.couragetospeak.org, also creates 
curriculum for use in the classroom.

The Cabot Coalition, a community group focused on reducing substance 
abuse by youths, arranged for Katz to speak at the school. Lori 
Augustyniak, coordinator of the Cabot Coalition, said a few adult and 
youth members of the coalition heard Katz speak in Washington D.C. 
last January. Those members, she said, were responsible for spreading 
the word that Katz's message needed to be heard in Cabot.

Sofia Belenky, a 16-year-old junior at the school, was one of the 
school kids who had seen Katz speak before. She said Katz's 
presentation made a big impact on her when she saw it last winter.

"It was really realistic, it wasn't glazed over," Belenky said. "It 
made me realize that this can happen to anyone."

On Sunday, Katz implored the crowd to learn about the dangers of 
drugs and how easy it is for any kid to get hooked. Children today, 
she said, are exposed to more powerful and more dangerous drugs than 
ever before. Part of the solution to the problem, she said, is communication.

"Have the courage to speak," she said to the children, "and parents, 
have the courage to listen."

After the presentation, parent and Cabot resident Rosa Jacques said 
Katz talk was moving. As a recent transplant from Connecticut, 
Jacques said the story was moving and important for the town of Cabot to hear.

"It was amazing," she said. "I pray to God it reaches a lot of hearts here."

Katz will speak at the Cabot School again today at 9 a.m.
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