Pubdate: Thu, 15 May 2003
Source: Otago Daily Times (New Zealand)
Copyright: Allied Press Limited, 2003
Contact:  http://www2.odt.co.nz
Details: http://www.mapinc.org/media/925
Author: Ian Munro

DRUG USE IS A CONTINUUM

Sometimes, despite the effort we feel we have put in, we discover our 
youngster has been using drugs. These will probably be nicotine, alcohol or 
marijuana. They could be others, but it would be unusual for any of those 
to be the first used.

You will have varying reactions depending on which it is. However, they are 
all drugs.

Nicotine is highly addictive and is a proven health risk. Alcohol is 
readily abused and is a proven contributor to road deaths and public and 
domestic violence. Use of marijuana is illegal, a proven physical and 
mental health risk, a contributor to road deaths and puts youngsters in 
touch with others involved in criminal activity.

Most will try these drugs for the fun of it, for the feeling, for curiosity 
or for the risks involved. Some will continue to use because most of their 
friends do, life isn't fun without it and "it doesn't cause any problems 
anyway". Adults tend to use alcohol for these three reasons.

A smaller number will start to become dependent on the substance and it 
will become an important part of their life. Adults tend to use nicotine 
for this reason. Our youngster's reasons will be to escape, avoid 
responsibilities and avoid problems, many of which are caused by use. His 
values will have changed slightly to accommodate the use - perhaps by lying 
or stealing money to purchase. Friendship groups may have changed and be 
made up of slightly older people. School performance may have slipped.

Confrontation brings aggressive and angry responses.

The final stage of use is dependency. Our youngster needs the substance to 
feel normal. Those addicted to nicotine will know the feeling. He will want 
to avoid physical and psychological pain and won't be able to function 
without symptoms of withdrawal when he hasn't managed to have a top up.

Our youngster is now in the realm of addiction, potential overdose, 
emotional problems, legal problems, and maybe suicide attempts, depending 
on the drug.

What I have described is a spectrum of use from non-use, to 
experimentation, to occasional use, to habitual and intensive use. Probably 
80% of youngsters will experiment with at least two substances by age 18. A 
much smaller but growing percentage will progress further.

Your obvious love, openness and genuine concern for their wellbeing all of 
the time, not just when it is convenient, are a great preventive against 
progression along the spectrum. You have not been afraid to take the hard 
decisions and to set fair limits and logical and consistent consequences 
along the way. You do this because you love your children and care for 
their safety, even when it has seemed too hard a job.
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MAP posted-by: Tom