Pubdate: Fri, 25 Oct 2002 Source: Tampa Tribune (FL) Copyright: 2002, The Tribune Co. Contact: http://www.tampatrib.com/ Details: http://www.mapinc.org/media/446 Authors: Maggie Beard Webpage: http://tampatrib.com/News/MGA2L7Q8P7D.html Webpage: http://tampatrib.com/News/MGAF56Q8P7D.html JEB BUSH AND NOELLE (2 Of 3) Not Enabling Noelle Regarding the letters "Avoiding Negative Press" and "Jeb's Priorities" (Oct. 22): I would like to invite the letter writers to attend a meeting of Al- Anon. What they would discover is that the worst thing the family of an addict can do is to continue to "stand by her" and "be with her through the good and the bad." These are classic "enabling" actions that only serve to feed the addict's need to involve everyone around her in her addictions. Only by allowing the addict to suffer the consequences of her actions, while the rest of the family goes on to live a normal life, will the enabling cycle be broken. Jeb Bush showed true love and devotion to his daughter by detaching with love. It is the hardest thing, yet the best thing that anyone who loves an addict can do for her. Maggie Beard Seffner - --- MAP posted-by: Beth