Pubdate: Wed, 25 Sep 2001
Source: Salisbury Post (NC)
Copyright: 2001 Post Publishing Co.
Contact:  http://www.salisburypost.com/
Details: http://www.mapinc.org/media/380
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DRUG TALK HITS CLOSE TO HOME

It's one thing to tell parents they need to keep closer tabs on their kids. 
It's quite another to present that message to parents and teens at the same 
time and in a way that makes sense to both generations.

Motivational speaker Milton Creagh of Atlanta succeeded at that Monday 
night in a Salisbury appearance sponsored by Allies for Substance Abuse 
Prevention. He talked very little about alcohol and drugs. Instead, he 
focussed on the importance of being a vigilant, caring and sometimes 
unpopular parent.

Teens who have bucked their parents' authority got a good dose of preaching 
on why parental controls are necessary. Parents who consider themselves 
experts got an earful on the things they may still do wrong.

In other words, just about everyone squirmed in his or her seat at least 
once as Creagh's message struck close to home - uncomfortably close at times.

Teens raised hands to admit that they had creatively stretched the truth 
with their parents -lied -and even admitted to bouncing the lie off a 
friend for practice.

They also raised hands - many hands - when asked if they knew of a house 
where they could go to drink or do drugs without adult supervision or 
interference.

Parents did not get off scot-free. They had to consider if they were among 
the three types of parents whose homes are often used by kids to drink or 
do drugs. One was the empty home, where Mom and Dad have great intentions, 
but they both work. (The top time of day for kids to drink or have sex, 
Creagh said, was 3 to 6 p.m.) The second was the home where one parent was 
vigilant but the other was clueless and always defended the teen. The third 
was the home where parents thought they were cool and allowed teens to get 
away with stuff they could not do in their own homes.

And then there was the message Creagh started the evening with. After 
speaking to teens earlier in the day, he said, several came to him to say 
they wished their parents would stop abusing drugs. Seventy percent of 
illegal-drug users in America are in the workforce every day, he said. The 
spotlight of blame that many parents expected to shine on the younger 
generation Tuesday night clearly aimed also at them.

What difference will Creagh's speech make?It's hard to say. He and the 
Allies for Substance Abuse Prevention are fighting against powerful 
societal forces. Families tend to isolate themselves from each other, and 
adults no longer help each other out by snitching on other people's kids. 
Growing affluence has led to more perks for teens, and fewer chores. 
Children no longer seem to worry about proving themselves in the areas of 
responsibility, accountability, dependability and maturity. They just need 
to prove they can pass the driver's test and - voila - at 16 they will have 
a car.

Creagh said he was appalled that the cars in the students' parking lot at 
Salisbury High -cars driven by what he called "your snot-nosed children" 
- -were nicer than those in the teachers' parking lot.

He was blunt and persuasive. And if he convinced just one or two parents to 
take more time - to check out their kids' friends, assign some chores, 
resist the constant push to go along, go along, go along - Creagh might 
have accomplished something.

If he also helped their teens understand why these things are important, he 
will have achieved the seemingly impossible.
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